The idea that guys don’t want to be involved in wedding planning is one of two things: Totally true or a complete cliche.
It all depends on the groom. If you’re one of those guys who’s willing to get involved with the wedding planning, here’s how to go about it:
- Tell her you care. If she doesn’t know wedding planning is something you’d like to be involved in, she probably won’t even consider asking for your opinion. At the beginning of the planning process, make it clear that you want input on certain things (or everything, as the case may be).
- Then show her you care. If you want to be involved with planning, you have to make sure you act like it. This means showing up on time to meetings, not grumbling when she drags you to yet another venue and browsing photographers’ online galleries with her. If you act like wedding planning is a hindrance, she’ll likely just cut you out of the planning process (and will probably get pretty mad at your before doing it.)
- Take charge or one or more aspects of the wedding. Quite often, the groom is in charge of the honeymoon, but it doesn’t necessarily have to be this. You can pick the DJ or the photographer — whatever is important to you. Perhaps you should take care of the transportation, as deciding between a limo, Rolls Royce or even a getaway motorcycle is fun and manly at the same time.
- Plan the things that directly affect the groom. This includes the groom and groomsmen’s attire, his wedding ring and the groomsmen gifts. After all, if you don’t care about what the bridesmaids wear and receive as gifts, why should she get too involved with what your guys wear?
- Plan it together. Ideally, you and your fiancee will just plan everything together. There’s no reason to split up the tasks unless you want to. Instead, why don’t you both browse wedding inspiration online and run everything past each other before making a decisions. When the wedding day actually arrives, you can truly call it “your day.”
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